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The Cost of Sexuality for Some Teenaged Girls

The development of adolescent sexuality includes not only their physical development, but their social development, moral development, intellectual development, and their emotional development. However, these needs and abilities do not all develop in the same amounts or at the same time.

Social and emotional needs and abilities develop faster than intellectual or moral development which means teens are more likely to have errors in judgement and poor decision making. Some teenagers are notoriously poor at considering long term consequences. 

Young teenaged girls across the world think that they have nothing of value to offer the opposite sex (and sometimes same sex). Their self-worth is entirely tied up in their sexuality. These girls want to fit in so badly (socially and emotionally), they want to be liked. Sadly, they think the only way that boys will like them is if they give up sexual favors.

What many of these girls do not realize is that they are often giving up a piece of themselves that they can never get back. They trade their sexuality for short-term (often very short-term) acceptance from the very people who tell them that they are special or, “the one”.

Some of these girls learn much too late that those promises of friendship and acceptance were lies. They move from one person to the next seeking validation and love, but it always seems to come at a cost followed by abandonment or rejection. Most of these girls learn much too late that the promises of love and affection were lies just to obtain sexual favors.

These girls develop self-worth issues, poor self-esteem, fear of rejection, fear of abandonment, difficulties attaching to others in a positive or healthy manner, sometimes these girls avoid forming close relationships in order to not be abandoned again. Many of them believe that there is something wrong with them, that they are somehow defective.

I am here to tell these girls that there is hope. They do not have to feel shamed any longer. There is another way. There are people out there who believe in them and support them. I am one of those people. 

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